Okay, we have all (many of us) been through the "why" stage. Most of the "whys" we can answer...
Why does Izzy pee outside and not in the potty?
Why does Thor eat off the floor?
Why do we eat?
Why do we clean the house?
Why does daddy go to work?
Easy enough, right?
Well, what about these:
Mommy, why did I live in the orphanage?
Where are my baby pictures?
Did I grow in your belly?
She is 5! She gets she didn't live here forever and she gets there are not any "baby" pictures of her sitting around the house. How did you answer these?
I said, "Because a long time ago this wonderful lady carried you in her tummy and brought you into the world. She tried very hard to care for you - to give you food, clothes and a place to live. She loved you, but realized she was not able to take care of you like she wanted to. She took you to the orphanage and asked the ladies there to care for you, to give you food, clothes and a place to live, and they did until daddy and mommy came to bring you home."
She often asks now if Christian and Carson lived in the orphanage or if daddy and mommy lived in the orphanage. I know in her mind she is trying to put this picture together. I have to admit, I thought these questions would come a bit later.
2 comments:
It's hard to imagine what is going through her little mind right now. I think that is a wonderful answer.
When I answer questions about adoption to my kids I have tried and keep it as simple as possible. I always leave the door open for them to ask again as needed. Every so often I start the conversation and tell them a little bit more about the story so they can openly ask more questions. I always reassure them they are my babies and that they grew in my heart instead of my tummy! As far as pictures, I have current pictures all over the house from where we began. Justin really likes this.
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