Remember we had decided to conduct a birth mother/family search? We have now compiled a list of questions we would like for our researcher to ask IF he is able to locate our daughter's biological family, extended family, and orphanage.
Here they are:
Questions:
Pregnancy, Labor, Delivery
· Was labor difficult?
· Was Ella Grace carried full term?
· Did you have medical care while you were pregnant?
· Was Ella Grace your first pregnancy? If not how did those pregnancies terminate?
· Did you drink or smoke while you were pregnant?
· Did she have any medical conditions upon birth?
· What were Ella Grace’s birth stats? Length and weight?
· For the 5 months you mothered her, was she a good baby?
· Did she sleep and eat well?
· Do you have any baby pictures of her?
· Is the name you gave her a family name? If so, who did you name her after?
Father’s Information
· Did he know about the pregnancy?
· If he did, was he at the birth? If yes, did he hold her and did he help name her?
· How old was her father at time of birth?
· What is his birthday, eye color, hair color, build, and
· height, weight; and is he right or left handed?
· Is he Ukrainian or another nationality?
· Did he go to school?
· What was his favorite subject?
· Was he a good student?
· Is he employed? If so, what type of employment?
· What type of education does he have?
· Did he have hobbies?
· What are his interest?
· Does he have a favorite song, food, time of year, sport,
· animal, color, holiday, and childhood memory?
· What religion does he practice if any?
· Does his family know of Ella Grace?
· How is his general health both physical and mental?
· What is his relationship with the birth mother now?
· Is he married/divorced now? If yes, how long?
· Does his now or then wife know of Ella Grace?
· If married/divorced, are there any children?
· Are they aware of a half sibling?
· Is there anything he or they would want Ella Grace to know?
· Is there anything he would like to send to his biological daughter as a memento/keepsake?
· What type of relationship would he like to have with us?
Mother’s Information
· What were the circumstances of the pregnancy (planned or unplanned)?
· What were the circumstances which made her place Ella Grace in the child house at 5 months old?
· What is her birthday, height, weight, hair color, eye color and is she right or left handed?
· Is she employed? If so, what type of employment?
· What type of education does she have?
· What was her favorite subject in school?
· Was she a good student?
· Does she have hobbies?
· What are her interest?
· Does she have a favorite song, food, time of year, sport, animal, color, holiday, and childhood memory?
· What religion does she practice if any?
· Does her family know of Ella Grace?
· What does she do in her spare time?
· How is her general health both physical and mental?
· What is her relationship with the birth father now?
· She is married/divorced now… how long?
· Does her now or then husband know of Ella Grace?
· Are there any children? If so, are they aware of a half sibling?
· Any other children given up for adoption? If so, does she know where they are now?
· Is there anything she or they would want Ella Grace to know?
· Is there anything she would like to send to her biological daughter as a memento/keepsake?
· What type of relationship would she like to have with us?
Orphanage/Child House
· Are there any photos of our daughter when she was
· younger?
· Who took care of Ella Grace when she was a baby?
· (Names, pictures, any info)
· What was she like as a baby?
· Did she have a favorite toy, song, game?
· Did she play better with girls or boys?
· How old was she when she sat up alone? Walked unassisted?
· When did she cut her first tooth?
· What was her first word?
· Did she ever ask about her biological mother and/or father?
· Did she have a best friend? Who? Pictures?
· While in the child house, did she have any illnesses?
Extended Family & Relatives
· Please list all known family members – living and/or dead.
· Include names, birthdays, death dates, pictures, occupations, religions.
· Where were her ancestors from? Where do they live now?
· Is there any history of disease or mental illness?
· What is the general health of relatives?
· What are their addresses, phone numbers, email addresses?
· Any special talents in the family?
· Any other background information that might be interesting or useful.
Can you think of anything we have left out?
About Our Family
- ...
- El Paso, Texas, United States
- We are James, Lisa, Patrick, Christian, Carson, and Ella Payne a military family serving our country via service in the U.S. Army. Jim and I have been married for 18 years and have 3 wonderful home grown sons -Patrick, Christian and Carson. We recently adopted our beautiful daughter Ella Grace Ana from Donets'k, Ukraine in September. Jim and I began our Army life together at Fort Bliss, El Paso, Texas and every assignment thus far has extended unique opportunities and challenges for our family to grow and learn; to become a stronger, committed, and a prepared Army family. Having recently lived abroad for six amazing years, we cannot express how thankful we are for the opportunity to have represented our great country and to discover the cultures and customs of other countries; to become close to the people and learn from them; to open our hearts and minds to the unfamiliar languages and way of life in other countries. Having now moved back to the United States, we are looking forward to discovering what new adventures await our family. Rest assured, wherever the Army sends us we will continue to serve you and our country proudly. Army life, we wouldn’t trade it!
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This is our "spot" we began at the beginning of our journey in May 2007, to adopt a child from Ukraine. In August 2008, we traveled to Ukraine to bring our daughter/sister Ella Grace Ana home; and on September 12, 2008 we did just that.
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While our journey to bring her home is complete, our journey together is just beginning. We will continue to keep our spot here, posting as frequently as we can; and keeping you updated on our next journey in life...maybe a second adoption is in our future.
Please join us by following us by clicking on the "Follow" link to the left and posting your notes at the bottom of any post we have made.
5 comments:
Wow, that is a lot! I think it is more than enough, and if your search provider finds them culturally inappropriate he will probably tell you. Good Luck!
Maybe you should add some "fun facts" so that the mom isn't overwelmed. "What is your favorite food?" It would be fun to see if she and Ella enjoy the same kind of things.
Wow, looks good to me Lisa. Hope you guys are doing well.
Melissa
That is a lot of questions. Were you planning to send that with the searcher or ask the birth family if you make contact with them?
I think you have great list!
MP
Thanks so much for the recommendation of Gene. He is doing our search right after yours :-) There was only a few really good ones that I wanted to pass on - "Do you have any hopes/dreams for Igor?" "Do you have any funny or interesting stories about your ancestors that you would like Igor to know?" "Is there a skill or trait that your family is well known for?" Can I borry some of yours? Wont Gene laugh if our lists are the same!! Also, my doctors gave me medical history forms to have filled out. Especially the pediatrician is good to have for her file.
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